Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies
“Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.” -Robert Greene
So much has been happening these past year. Somethings were great and others were no so great. The one thing that stands out is the severing of ties of what use to be a great friend! Me and this individual had been “friends” since the 7th grade I am now 27, so as you can tell…This wasn’t a new friend situation. However, I noticed these past 2 years things had begun to change.
Apparently there is a time in everyone’s life where you feel as though game playing and b.s. must cease and desist. A time when you really have figured out what you want and have set out a plan to obtain it whether it be materialist or not.
My plan for 2013 was to mature and grow into a responsible women. Not just responsible but being accountable as well. Too long had I played the blame game of life and pointed fingers of blame in other directions beyond myself and I wanted that to stop. So I did! I finally figured out the surface story that is life and begin to follow my own path.
Here comes the downfall of the friendship.
I would hate to say it was envy or a lack of things in common. My reasonings for this friendships issues was that I didn’t want to fall back into old habits. Although me and this individual have known each other since before we were children doesn’t mean that every time we are together we have to act like we are that age again.
I no longer wanted to hear those sob stories on the phone. All the issues that can be fixed but were ignored, I just couldn’t keep up with the amount of garage being dumbed on me daily. Since I did not ask for that garbage I began being more into my own goals, into my own self improvement. Beyond all of this there were events that transpired and it really helped to illuminate the characteristics of the person whom I had been calling “friend” for so many years.
It’s amazing when other people notice things about your friends that are unsavory you will jump to defend them even though you know it’s true. I was that friend for a long time and I just had to stop. You can not continue to treat others as if they are less than friends more like enemies and expect them to remain the same.
This “Friend” was not a friend at all more like a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Hell, I almost died!
I need some true insight into friendships that simply grow apart. I have been disrespected and I have been extremely nice about it. I have been screwed over but have continued about my way. So I am now looking for closure to the fullest!